SOS

These are my scattered notes from Breakaway:
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"A relationship we invested deeply in & emotionally, & that we ruined by expediting physically."

There's more for you when someone actually loves you.

to marry one another & explore each other intimately, feeling safe.

this is my best stuff & I'm giving it you

I don't want someone to satisfy my temporary desire for physicality or financial support, I want someone to build with me emotionally, supportive,

who are the richest, hottest people in the world? how are their marriages working out? it's not sufficient to just be hot.

does he do right by them? will he do right by you? does he try to get you to compromise?

...He doesn't fear God. As a single man if he's blowing off the word of God what makes you think that when he is married he will take seriously, at all, the command to love you like Christ loves the church?

Proverbs 22 does he give? does he pray?

his name is fragrant, your name is your reputation, your character-who you are, people respond to it- drawing towards or repelling?

I have all these desires in your heart, will God bring me someone to love?

"God made the equipment we play the game with" haha

the song of solomon: longing, wanting to be someone

what should draw to godly people toward each other? --your character

"If you wanna be her lover, you gotta get with her friends" hahahahha.

Is he kind to people who won't help him ascend a social ladder?

those who weep the most are the brokenhearted- infatuation

do you love this person rightfully? is he an appropriate person to set your affections on?

"My own vineyard I have not kept" --her body

As a woman, be confident in who you are. Is she rude? Is she cruel? She is hardworking, generous, humble, caring--righteous, she has morals, that's where she starts.

"Let him draw me away" -express your feelings but don't chase him!

You're ready to date when you are not willing to negotiate your standards.

do the roommate check!

proverbs 3

kindess.

When you have to go out, beyond sex, do you have anything to talk about? Do you make each other laugh? Do you enjoy each others company?

He compliments her from the neck up.
She's gentle.

Difference between making love and making porn, a focus more on instant arousal and loss of the social skills of romance.

Spoken to kindly, handled gently, the most precious thing a woman can have is her own fragrance-her character. Tender, gracious, loving.

Kindness is desirable in a man.

Spiritually, they have character. Emotionally, they have kindness. Physically, attraction follows.

controlling thoughts & flesh.

Go slowly.

What we have is so beautiful, wait for it--Don't force it, don't pressure it. Marrying the wrong guy is infinitely worse. Wait for God to give you a mate like this. Don't manipulate love. Don't expedite love, you're not ready for marriage or physicality now. Speak tenderly to one another, SPEAK, don't love with your body.
Save it.
Move into a place of safety, covenant, stability & then move into a place of intimacy.